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Dr. Martin Seligman founder of the positive psychology movement described the 3 p’s of pessimistic behaviour

Personalize “It’s my fault”
We blame ourselves for the events that occurred and are angry for not having known or for taking action sooner.
Not taking failures personally allows us to recover and move on.

Pervasive “My whole life is a disaster”
Assuming that since this ONE horrible event/incident has occurred, everything is awful in their lives
Whether it’s personal or business related, they catastrophize that their happiness is gone and will never return.

Permanence “I will never feel joyful again”
Individuals believe that the way they feel now… shattered and broken… is the way they will feel forever. Evidence suggests that we do recover and often thrive in the face of adversity.

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Habits can be contagious. The people around you matter. And you matter to the people around you. Research shows that we are affected by the body composition, habits, and lifestyles of those around us. The more people around us are doing something, or living a certain way, the more likely we are to do and live the same — whether that’s what we eat, how we eat, whether we move (or not), how we move, and so on.

If your friends and family are fitter and healthier, you’re more likely to be fitter and healthier. And the reverse is true, too.

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SOME PEOPLE JUST SEEM TO BOUNCE BACK FROM ANYTHING. HERE’S WHAT THEY HAVE IN COMMON.

BY HARVEY DEUTSCHENDORF

Success is seldom a straight road; it almost always involves many detours and dead ends. It takes tenacity and determination to keep going, but those that do will eventually reach their destination.

Most of us have heard before that Thomas Edison failed more than 1,000 times but continued on despite being ridiculed by the media and those around him. And plenty more people refuse to quit long after most would have given up. What is it about these people that makes them different?

There are a number of attributes that consistently stand out amongst those who tenaciously follow their own path in life. Here are seven things highly resilient things have in common:

1. HAVE A HIGHLY DEVELOPED SENSE OF SELF
People who are able to develop a strong sense of who they are and what matters to them are much better able to resist external influences that will keep many people from reaching their potential. They are able to draw strength from within and are therefore less likely to be influenced by what others think of them. This strong inner strength helps them deflect criticism, alienation, ridicule and other factors that everyone who forges their own path inevitably faces.

2. LOOK FOR A POSITIVE TAKE AWAY FROM EVERY SITUATION
When things don’t go according to plan, resilient people look for the learning in the situation and the lesson they can take away. They don’t view failure as final, rather a necessary learning step that will take them further along the path. Instead of taking setbacks personally, they are seen as an inevitable part of the learning process and mentally prepare themselves to deal with them. Resilient people do not lose the lesson.

3. TAKE A LONG TERM VIEW
Resilient people are prepared for the long haul, fully realizing that anything worth achieving will be difficult and will take a great deal of time, effort and persistence. Despite not seeing any immediate results of their efforts, they are keenly aware that what their lives will look like in the future will be determined by their efforts today. Their strong sense of the future motivates them to take action even when they see no immediate benefit and don’t feel very motivated in the moment.

4. HAVE HIGHLY DEVELOPED SENSE OF PURPOSE

Whether it is a belief in a higher power, a strong sense of purpose, or a great sense of humor, resilient people have sources of strength they can rely on to get them through difficult situations. This decreases their sense to belong and rely upon others for motivation. They see their lives beyond the everyday routine and strongly feel the need to follow their own vision. Their motivation is intrinsic.

5. DON’T GET FRIGHTENED BY UNCOMFORTABLE THOUGHTS OR NOT HAVING THE ANSWERS

Most people believe that not knowing how to do something and not being able to, are one and the same thing. Highly resilient people don’t let not knowing how to do something stop them. They believe that they will find a way. They have faith in their ability to overcome whatever obstacles are in their path. Expecting to find new situations uncomfortable and difficult, they are willing to accept this as part of the process.

6. ARE SELECTIVE IN WHOM THEY LOOK TO FOR GUIDANCE AND INSPIRATION
Highly resilient people don’t suffer fools. It’s not that they never look to others for guidance and direction, it’s that they are very selective in who they chose to follow. They look for mentorship in people who have achieved greatly and whom they admire. Once they have found the people they chose to follow, they soak up all the information, guidance and inspiration they can by reading their books and listening to their spoken messages for insight.

7. FIND HEALTHY WAYS TO RECHARGE AND NURTURE THEMSELVES
Resilient people are no less susceptible to pressures and life’s stressors than anyone else, but they have developed healthy coping mechanisms they know can be counted on. Whether it is meditation, exercise or an all-encompassing hobby, they have proven methods that allow them to recharge their energy and get back into pursuing their passion. Personal growth and development for them is not a passing interest or flavor of the month, it is a way of life.

http://www.fastcompany.com/3028712/7-habits-of-highly-emotionally-intelligent-people

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A Quote by a Cherokee Indian

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, “My son, the battle is between 2 “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil.
It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good.
It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Cherokee Indian

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Here is a link from “The Atlantic” magazine – internet version that succinctly describes the key to success in our relationships.

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/#ixzz3IraMUDv3

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Did something or someone annoy you today?  Tired of the cold and  shovelling snow?  Your mood will be completely elevated listening to the music video HAPPY by Pharrell Williams the most joyful catchy tune that will have you up dancing!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6Sxv-sUYtM

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One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport.

We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches!

The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly.

So I asked, ‘Why did you just do that?

This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck.’

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks.

They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it, and sometimes they’ll dump it on you.

Don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on.

Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.

Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so…

Love the people who treat you right.

Pray for the ones who don’t.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Have a great, garbage-free day.

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